How to Spot Psychological Manipulators *NEW POST*

A nice intuitive piece…


By Eric Perry, PhD-c

“You learn a lot about people when they don’t get what they want.” ~Anonymous

Like the waves that forcefully crash on the shore and later gracefully retreat, there is an ebb and flow to life. The seasons change and the flowers bloom, only to later wilt. We all give and take in our daily lives. Our interactions with one another are overall based on a healthy exchange of emotions, ideas and positive social interactions. There are some individuals, that like crashing waves have a disruptive influence in our lives. They seem only interested in profiting from the relationship and will give little or nothing in exchange. They use psychological manipulation to disguise their true intent.

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that uses deception, underhanded tactics and abuse in order to achieve the interests of the manipulator. The manipulator may use these tactics for…

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1 Day Black

Black – most of us know that this unique color symbolizes grief, negativity, more than that a big heavenly space encompassing most celestial bodies.

May be if you are a science student, you may be a little optimistic saying ‘Black’ has everything, all hues in it absorbed. If so, I totally agree with you. Now my question is how many of you could succeed in witnessing at least one of these so called ‘absorbed’ colors. Do we have some tool that helps us to make at least one color visible out of this deadly ‘Black’? I wonder!

I made an attempt to see, no not that I invented any tool. But with a different approach.  I feel I succeeded in bringing out at least a couple of those colors. A couple of them yet with millions of their tones. ( I do not say shades as they again drive me to black.)

Into the matter, I was positive and jubilant about a phone call that asked me to be a ‘Scribe’ for an alumnus of theirs. I was thanking the Lord who sometimes feels that my services to his ‘beloved’ are potential. Until I met this ‘Differently abled’, I was assuming that all my calls to contact this Mr.X (not sure if he liked mentioning his name, I sent him a friend request on FB.) were being responded by some of his room mates. Assumptions take no time to fade away.

On Sunday, I was waiting for him on my two wheeler. He walked towards me, quite punctual about the time, accompanied by his mother. He was totally blind, 100 percent. We introduced each other; and assuring his mother about my commitment to him for the day, I headed along with him towards iOn Digital Zone, the examination center at Maula Ali, Hyderabad.

It was a horrible timing and the Sun seemed to be testing the mettle of each candidate who stood there with an invincible determination to take the RRB exam. (Whether they prepared for it does not matter here, LOL, I could see WhatsApp was predominant until they were allowed in.) This was when I had sufficient time to interact and understand the colors within ‘Black’. He was using an iPhone 4, making calls to his classmates who were also supposed to be taking the same exam. He was making sure if the other scribes were on their word and reaching on time. He made another call to assure his mother about his safety and the time he would need her again, etc.

During our conversation, I learnt that he was the ‘Topper’ until his graduation. He had enough guts to file a RIT against the current regulations that prevented him from appearing for the Judicial exams. Oh! I forgot to mention that he graduated from a reputed Law university in Odisha. Despite being so differently abled, he supports his family by working as a junior advocate somewhere in Film nagar, as he said.

He is relentlessly appearing for all sorts of competitive exams with one HOPE that some day he would see his parents with no regret about his abilities (in physical terms).

We talk of being positive, we talk of overcoming hurdles, we talk of building relationships, and we talk of what not! And this person who evolves out of ‘Black’ each day, each moment only keeps smiling. He smiles at the enormous opportunities he can utilize and succeed, at least at some time of his life. He smiles at his confidence levels. He is the happiest person I have ever seen in my life, so far.

Thanks for your time to glance at this blog!